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by SanderNL 968 days ago
I don’t understand what these two completely orthogonal concepts do together.

I’m this though. I’m a raging introvert and I am married. But no, I am not loyal to my wife because my lifestyle doesn’t offer me enough alternatives. That’s F’ed up. Being loyal and committed and being an introvert is also orthogonal by the way.

Being a good husband and being quiet and easygoing are also orthogonal. Emotional needs are a thing in both of you and they are not met by tinkering with raspberry pi’s.

If you are hosting game nights and actively pursuing community, you are not a raging introvert. Trust me on this. You are a normal person with a bit of both and maybe slightly introverted and yes, you might be lacking an authentic connection. Notice this doesn’t mean a romantic connection, that’s just the “normie” variation of it.

But I am convinced every person needs something outside his or herself to truly grow. I think this can be found in art or religion, but I am not sure. Another human is easier.
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oaththrowaway 968 days ago
> But no, I am not loyal to my wife because my lifestyle doesn’t offer me enough alternatives. That’s F’ed up. Being loyal and committed and being an introvert is also orthogonal by the way.

Yeah I thought that was borderline offensive.

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pavel_lishin 968 days ago
The author of the article honestly reads like he might be on the spectrum. Which isn't a bad thing, but it does mean that maybe his point of view doesn't reflect that of other introverts.
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foogazi 968 days ago
Reading people, their motives and intentions, is difficult for literal thinkers
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LukasRos 968 days ago
Author here. First, I didn't claim to by a "raging introvert". But I was more introverted when I was younger and I believe I'd still be like that if I had already found a partner. Also I'm probably using the terms extrovert and introvert in a very sloppy manner to just describe the amount of socializing. I might have better chosen other terms.

Second, I didn't claim that people are only loyal because of lack of alternatives. I apologize if that came out offensive. But I still believe that people are more likely to cheat on their spouse a) the more alternatives they have and b) the more they enjoy the process of dating and flirting.

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