[zlg_codes]

"Letting go" is suspiciously close to "be a doormat for others", it smells of BS.

I've gone to therapy with the CBT method and it's total garbage meant to keep you meek and accepting of the bullshit people pile on you in life.

The correct solution to abuse is a punch to the face. Civil actions and words have no effect.

[johnnyanmac]

>The correct solution to abuse is a punch to the face.

if you can afford it, sure. But that civil lawsuit you dismiss will suddenly crush you if you punch the wrong person in the face.

Maybe there is a bit too much soft footed training these days, but there's also a very good reason, financially and legally, to know when to hold your punches. At least be smart enough to get an explicit reason on record before you start swinging fists.

[zlg_codes]

I like where you showed me that the civil way gets results.

Oh wait.

It may be ugly but people tend to leave someone alone after getting knocked out. Words are a warning, a substitute for violence. We use words because violence is ugly. When words don't work, you don't use more words. That's insanity.

[johnnyanmac]

0 tends to be more than a negative number. I'm not saying not to resort to violence. I'm just saying it has a higher chance to backfire than retreating.

[mvncleaninst]

> I've gone to therapy with the CBT method and it's total garbage meant to keep you meek and accepting of the bullshit people pile on you in life.

Really? I've never done it but have heard some negative stuff, like what do they teach you?

[zlg_codes]

The gist of it is to question existing thoughts or reactions, which sounds good on paper because how else do you grow without introspection? However, it does little to solve real mental or emotional issues. I felt like I was talking through a workbook and not connecting to a real human.

It's led to reduced trust in psychology and psychiatry. Maybe in another hundred years we'll have a clue or two.

[tomhoward]

> “Letting go" is suspiciously close to "be a doormat for others"

What I’m referring to is nothing like that whatsoever, and I’m not talking about/advocating CBT, or anything that involves adopting meekness.