[fredthedeadhead]

I'm pretty interested in Breeze as an alternative https://breeze.social/

* There's no endless swiping. Users can only see a handleful of matches, each profile stays visible until users say yes/no on each profile, and the profiles are only topped up twice a day.

* All chatting is in-person, which is much more human than trying to text online. If users match, they can't chat. They both put down a deposit (about double the cost of a drink in a bar), pick a day & time they're avaliable, and Breeze automatically makes a reservation at a local bar (the first drink is free), or a park for a walk.

* Since dates require a deposit, and there's only so many days in the week(!), and users can't make new matches without first planning current matches, users don't get overwhelmed with connections - the existing contacts are prioritised.

* They're not owned by Match.com - which for me is a big plus! More disruption of their monopoly is a good thing.

[capableweb]

Looks interesting indeed. Seems to only be available in NL though, as the company seems to be Dutch and they don't say anything about where they are available. Make sense if they do the whole "make a reservation for me" thing.

> They're not owned by Match.com

Let me know in 5-10 years. I'd bet a substantial amount of money that eventually match.com will acquire them as well. Seems to be what ends up with all these dating services.

[bradlys]

> In which cities is Breeze available?

> Breeze is active in 15 cities: Alkmaar, Amsterdam, Breda, Delft, The Hague, Eindhoven, Groningen, Leiden, Maastricht, Nijmegen, Rotterdam, Tilburg, Utrecht, Wageningen, Zwolle. Beforehand you can choose where you want to date by going to the ‘Date preferences’ menu.

[thomastjeffery]

Seems helpful if you are looking for a committed relationship.

Many of us are not. Where can we go?

This is the question that really needs answering; else we will have no option but to continue to flood the same spaces that commitment-seekers use. The relative signal to noise ratio is hurting all of us.

[bradlys]

This is only something that would work for the Dutch. That's the whole point of "going Dutch". The fact that women have to pay anything at all would make this a non-starter in the US market.