[pollux01]

I am a victim of this and was depressed until, I took control of my life.

The worst part is, all of your life decision are taken by the parents and you feel at odds at your own emotions when you grow up to become an adult. Now a days, any words that my parent utter, even if the advice is a good one, I never take them seriously.

Lost trust on both the parents.

[whstl]

I'm on the same boat.

To me the worst part is that their behavior hasn't really changed as I became an adult, and in fact the have gotten worse. I'm not affected anymore due to stronger and more mature boundaries, but my siblings still are. And damn if it those boundaries are not isolating as hell.

Another very isolating factor is societal response to having a less than ideal relationship with ones parents. Some people really change their opinion on you after knowing you're not close with your folks.

[matt89]

I feel very similarly having grown up with a very overprotective and overly attached mother. I'm constantly struggling with emotions and have a lot of self doubt and don't feel like Im in control of my life. Been slowly regaining this control and trying to improve myself via therapy. Unfortunately right now I don't value my parents very much and Im resentful towards my mother. Perhaps that will change in future, perhaps not.

[helij]

People are not perfect. I know it's hard now but I urge you not to resent your mother. If she was otherwise kind then she was just overprotective and overly attached because she loves you.

[synecdoche]

This makes sense. Kids need agency and make their own mistakes. And parents to guide them not too far off course on the road to adulthood and a well functioning being in society.