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by grvdrm 973 days ago
Yes - as someone with this problem, you are spot on.

That says nothing about why they have trouble abstaining.

One element of it: teasing, judgement. Sometimes you fear those reactions to your decision so you pick the easy path and avoid that type of interaction. I know it sounds silly.

And you may also fear the broader possibilities when someone asks you why you are abstaining. Lots of people do.

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Does teasing and judgement happen often? I live in Vegas where being inebriated is fairly accepted but I can’t think of a time where I’ve been teased or pressured. They may be silently judging but I don’t notice or care.

I think a lot of it has to do with how you turn down a drink. I usually say, “No thanks,” or “I’m good, thanks,” and it rarely goes beyond that. When I hear people respond with, “I don’t drink,” or “I’m not drinking right now/tonight/this month,” that seems to invite discussion.

Everyone’s experiences are different though and I’m painting with a broad brush.

Valid point that how you respond invites or discourages certain types of commentary.

Otherwise - to your question, very circumstantial. Unsurprisingly, the more bro-like the setting, the higher the chance. I don’t surround myself with that environment constantly but it’s there from time to time.