[paulcole]

> an HR lady

First of all would you have said “an HR man” if that was the case?

Second, it’s somebody’s job to determine who’s a good fit or not. Sometimes they get it right and sometimes they get it wrong. But it’s their call. If they’re good at it, they might get to keep doing it. And if they’re bad at it, they might not get to keep doing it.

Honestly this is partially why it’s preferable to let people know that a company is moving ahead with other candidates but never give a reason. Just invites follow-up questions and confusion when the reason is that someone at the company didn’t want to hire you.

[Souzana]

I think I said that because I noticed that she was kind of rude in a woman way. Not easy to explain this one here though.

I honestly think that if I was a female she would like me more for example.

[paulcole]

Yeah I’d take a deep look at what you just said and work on that first.

Hard to imagine any company who wants women to be comfortable working there to think that you’re a good culture fit based on the 3 sentences here.

[Souzana]

I'm sure she would like me more if i was a female.

But apart from that, it wasn't just about her i think, others were also rude in a more subtle way. I really wouldn't like to work with them anyway.

[paulcole]

You can tell yourself whatever story you like, but you’re the one who thought this was worth posting an Ask HN about.

> I'm sure she would like me more if i was a female.

Would she? If you were you but a woman would you still have so many issues with women? Would you call a woman working in HR an “HR lady”? Or would she just like you more if you had more respect for women?

[Souzana]

Yes, of course I thought it's a good idea to post this, this is irrelevant. Anyway, after my experience with them I don't respect any of those people, no matter the gender. It's not really a gender issue here. I dislike them all equally xD

[paulcole]

Good luck with the job search.