[crashingintoyou]

One thing to note from https://ofboysandmen.substack.com/p/the-gender-pay-gap-is-no... is this when comparing same-sex and opposite-sex couples:

"the impact on earnings for the birth mother is [almost identical in both family types](https://www.ifau.se/globalassets/pdf/se/2016/wp2016-08-does-...). Meanwhile, the nonbirth mothers in the lesbian couples show a similar earnings pattern to fathers in the heterosexual ones"