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Sounds like you're taking an unfair amount of the burden and you're suffering as a result.

I'd have an honest discussion about this wit her.

Spending every waking hour with the baby doesn't entitle her to steal your sleep. If she got 10 and you got 6-8 hours, that would make a huge difference to you and to your family.

Don't let her gaslight you into thinking working a job to support the family and doing home repair and maintenance isn't as mentally and physically taxing as caring for a baby.