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by mattchamb
990 days ago
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>I came up with a template that would help me guide the conversation Maybe it's just a different style, but when I was a manager my 1 on 1s with my team was their chance for them to set the agenda. They had 30 mins of my undivided attention to discuss what THEY wanted to talk about. Except in rare cases, anything on my agenda was fit in at the end or I booked separate time for it. |
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I explicitly tell everyone when I implement one on ones that this isn’t a status meeting, a performance review meeting, or anything else. This is 30 minutes once a month to ensure if all else fails there’s time set aside where they have my undivided attention to talk about whatever they want or need to. And I always make sure to make clear that the expectation isn’t that they will box this stuff into this 30 minutes once a month, that this is just ensuring a baseline and they’re welcome to book me any time for any reason to talk.
I only implement them once I’ve been in place long enough to build some sense of trust and psychological safety among the team. I have no interest in wasting time on meetings where I push the conversation along while they blow smoke up my ass.
The entire template for the meeting from my end is: “On a scale from 1-4 how are you doing (no half points)? Why?”. Everywhere else that meeting goes is conversational and driven by whatever they want to talk about. It’s _their_ time.
Even the most curmudgeonly people I’ve worked with who met the initial suggestion with complaints and eye rolls got on board very quickly.