[Lio]

> He struggles with defining love

Well it is infamously difficult to define, so he's not alone in that.

Poets, artists, philosophers and scientists have all been trying and failing to define love for thousands of years.

I suspect that it means different things to different people so by its nature is undefinable.

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For me, the writings of Erich Fromm offer wonderful and coherent insights..Particularly those that move love from something that 'happens to us' to something we're responsible for.

[ReactiveJelly]

"big", "fast", and "heavy" all mean different things to programmers, train engineers, rocket designers, and astronomers, but they all still manage to quantify things.

If I love someone, I find them interesting, I feel bad when they feel bad, I want to spend time around them and get one-on-one attention from them, especially physical attention. That's at least half a definition for one person.

[Lio]

> "Big", "fast", and "heavy" all mean different things to programmers, train engineers, rocket designers, and astronomers, but they all still manage to quantify things.

Love is none of those things though and it's not measurable. What would the units be?

Half a definition is about as close as you'll get but it's the other half you'll never pin down. To paraphrase a cheesy film, you could spend your whole life trying and fail but it still wouldn't be a wasted life.