[em-bee]

but it takes two. if your partner does not reciprocate then sometimes there is nothing you can do to fix the relationship.

but that should not prevent anyone from trying to find a partner. it just means that i would look for a partner who understands this, and is willing to look out for your needs just as much as you look out for theirs.

[xyzelement]

Exactly. Who you marry is 100% within your control. It can still fail, but you aren't setting yourself up for failure at least.

[em-bee]

ok, it is in your control to pick a partner that is aware of these needs. but it is much easier said than done. and yes, not paying attention to that would be setting yourself up for failure. sadly many do.