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Jessica Benjamin and her book "The Bonds of Love" really struck a chord with me. I believe that her concept "gender polarity" fundamentally underlies old and modern "gender wars".

Other books and authors I found really interesting:

- Estela Welldon and her Book "Mother, Madonna, Whore"

- Sándor Ferenczi, who was a close associate of Freud and pioneered the concept of "Identification with the Aggressor", which seems to be the driving force behind what we call "transgenerational inheritance" of trauma. His concept of the "confusion of tongues" between child and pathological adult is also very interesting!

- Mathias Hirsch, a german psychoanalyst who wrote a lot about trauma, love, sexual abuse and was not afraid to explore stigmatized topics. For example:

  - the effects of sexual relations between analysts and their patients (he saw parallels to incestous abuse in a parent-child relationship)
  - sexually abusive mothers and the idealization of motherhood
  - the fact that his pyschoanalyst Günther Ammon, who later became his boss at the Deutsche Akademie für Psychoanalyse, controlled the academy in a cult-like fashion