[aristofun]

> I have little time these days

This contradicts everything else you say or imply here. Try to see how you fool yourself here.

If meeting a spouse is not that important — don’t pretend it is, just live your life as usual.

If it is important — then realize that it is not a business, not a process to measure ROI, not a jira ticket to resolve and forget etc.

you have to start trusting your gut feelings and be prepared to give away a substantial part of your time, your life, your energy to this new family you want to build together.