[raincom]

The more you are attached to something, the harder it is for you to cope. If visa situation doesn't work out, be positive about the alternative: going back to another country or home country and start your life there. Since people don't want to focus on alternatives, they get depressed.

[layoffdepressed]

you are absolutely right, there is always a choice, but some choices are bad and they are at the end of your choice list, so deep that you don't even consider it anymore as an option.