I always like to introduce people to this rules of civil conversation during such exchanges.
https://therulesofcivilconversation.org/
Equally helpful to maintain conversations that are positive is to check out own biases and fallacies:
https://yourbias.is/
https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/
Edit: For the two people who read this, in this buried submission, in this buried comment, a quote humorously apropos from the article: "so hair-trigger is the hypersensitivity, a mere invitation to discuss something is enough to set it off."
Edit: For the two people who read this, in this buried submission, in this buried comment, a quote humorously apropos from the article: "so hair-trigger is the hypersensitivity, a mere invitation to discuss something is enough to set it off."