[kikokikokiko]

I am aware that I have some attributes that made me very efective in the dating pool. I became single again in my early 30s, when the dating app boom was starting, circa 2014. I have always been in shape throughout my life, I am a house owner, and know how to write well and mantain a healthy conversation (I do not live in an english speaking country and it's not my native tongue).

Basically, the dating market available through dating apps is an infinite holodeck of available women, for men that have a reasonable enough sense of humor and specially, ARE NOT CREEPY AND NEVER, EVER, SEND A DICK PICK TO A WOMAN.

Really, it's that simple. Even when, eventually, a girl asks a guy for a "nude", NEVER, EVER, send one.

There's only two possibilities: it's either a real woman, and sending it or not will NOT make any difference in terms of the date going through or not, or the most probable possibility, it's a man on the other side of the conversation. No heterosexual man got extra points for sending nudes to a woman, ever.

After 2 and a half years of LITERALLY having dates every weekend, the revolving door of Starbucks 20 somethings becomes very boring. A non creepy man with middle class finances in his 30s can date anywhere from 18 to 40 year olds easily, and over time you start to realise that you prefer the company of the 35yo girls, but the looks of the 21s.

So I made a conscious decision to stop the machine at a certain point and settle down for a 26 year old girl 2 years away from defending her thesis. Now we're 6 years into a relationship and finally thinking about kids.

A man's instinct is to keep dating indefinitely for as long as he can, but believe me, EVERYTHING gets boring given enough time. I have no religion or any ideia about why we are on this world after all, but I believe that happiness is basically following our nature and doing what most fulfills our life from an experiences point of view.

I believe that a young man NEEDS to experience this phase of over polygamy, as well as I believe that having kids and passing your knowledge on to a new generation is an essential part of what being a human being is.

In the end, yes I was probably one of the few "high value men" that those apps tend to be so good at elevating. But once again I can tell you guys: I was never a great ladies man when it came to the traditional dating scene in the 90s and early 2000s. In person dating, on parties and the like, I was really average. On a dating app, it was really easy. Just don't be creepy.

And do not waste your early 30s guys. It's the most amazing time for a man to be on the dating scene, believe me. It's probably the closest a man can feel of what it's like to be a woman at the top of her powers, 18 to 25.

[corethree]

>Basically, the dating market available through dating apps is an infinite holodeck of available women, for men that have a reasonable enough sense of humor and specially, ARE NOT CREEPY AND NEVER, EVER, SEND A DICK PICK TO A WOMAN.

Your tips are irrelevant. The majority of men dont fit your criteria. How dumb do you have to be to send a dick pic? Very few men are that stupid. In fact this isn't even criteria women are judging you based on. If Chris Hemsworth sent a girl a dick pic, he won't be judged as a creeper.

Why? Because he's good looking, high status, over 6ft, rich and women would gobble up his penis no questions asked. There is never really a wrong thing to do or say to a woman, your worth is almost entirely derived from superficial features. Women just call the guy who sent them a dick pic a creeper because that guy had no chance in the first place. They reject and degrade men who make a move but aren't in their league. That's where the entire concept comes from. Women are kind of cruel this way.

Let me spell out the reality. The overwhelming majority of men do not have an endless supply of women to date. Maybe you do, but to be that way you are most likely white, over 6ft, very fit and very rich. Game is a factor here but from your tips you just dished out you basically have none.

You're born lucky and your circumstance is good. The advice of don't send dick pics is absolute garbage because it's blindingly obvious. Do you really think your the only genius who's figured out "don't be creepy"? Come on man. It sounds like you don't need any game and you're succeeding based on circumstance there's nothing insightful you have to offer.

Stay in the clouds bro. I'm serious.

[kikokikokiko]

If you had met the type of guys I know, that are "ugly" in every definition of the word, and are not rich by any means, but are always drowning in poonang, you would not be saying what you are saying. I consider myself average looking, and I have a tendency to get fat very easily. Because of that I've been training martial arts for pretty much all my life since puberty. I realized very early that just by virtue of keeping myself in shape, I started from zero instead of from a negative point. We, as men, have the luxury of not depending (almost) exclusively on our looks to attract women. It helps but is easily forgivable, way easier than for us men to accept a fat woman for instance.

I dated, literally, dozens of women during my years of dating app cruising, and ALL of them would emphatically explain that the main reason that they accepted to go out with me, was that I NEVER ASKED for, nor sent/asked permission for sending nude pics to them. IT REALLY is a deal breaker and a huge advantage on this market, to know these simple rules.

Don't be fat. Don't be unemployed. Pay for the dinner. Do not put sex in the conversation. It's so easy to not creep women out, there's really no secret to it. If you're fat, it's your prerogative to close your mouth. If you're (too) poor, work hard, learn how to save money and it's easy to get to your 30s on a decent enough life situation. I live in a freaking 3rd world country and was able to do it, on a place where a current year iPhone costs the same as 2 years minimum wage salary.

I can't stand men that make excuses in the style of yours, sorry dude. Evolutionary psychology is true, I saw your other comments. And exactly because of that, you should know that it's way easier for a man that started on the bottom tier of the dating rankings to pull himself up by his own decisions, than to a woman. If a woman is born "ugly", it's game over. She's probably going to be a bottom feeder on the dating market. I feel REALLY sorry for ugly women when I meet one, I have a sister that is in this situation and it is not a good life.

Choose your destiny dude.

[corethree]

>If you had met the type of guys I know, that are "ugly" in every definition of the word, and are not rich by any means, but are always drowning in poonang, you would not be saying what you are saying. I consider myself average looking, and I have a tendency to get fat very easily.

Bro. When did I say looks is the only factor of attraction for women? Your imagination is running wild and cooking up things I didn't say. LOOKS matter for men, For women they're judgement on attraction is MUCH more multi-faceted. They judge, status, they judge personality, they judge wealth, they judge career, they judge race, they judge humor, and they judge Looks. Looks is one dimension of multiple variables.

BUT here's the thing, looks HELP. It's a factor but men can get around that factor. If you have looks, you can do a lot worse in other categories. This isn't the point. The point is that women are HIGHLY selective. Even though women are multifaceted in their approach their bar is extremely high. Men are one dimensional in attraction but they have a lot of leeway and make a lot of exceptions.

That's why you see the data in dating apps. 80% of Women are pining for the top 20% of men and men are only matching with the bottom 80% of men. That's it, facts.

>I dated, literally, dozens of women during my years of dating app cruising, and ALL of them would emphatically explain that the main reason that they accepted to go out with me, was that I NEVER ASKED for, nor sent/asked permission for sending nude pics to them. IT REALLY is a deal breaker and a huge advantage on this market, to know these simple rules.

You're blind. You know when you ask a woman if money tell you it doesn't right? Lies. They're outright blind themselves. Never ask a woman for dating advice they tell you they want a sensitive man, they want someone who cares for them, they never tell you what they really want which is a 6 foot white chad extremely rich man who will dominate them and make them feel small and feminine. You let women tell you their delusions and you eat it up and become delusional yourself. This is what you are: Living in the clouds.

The data shows the average man only matches 2 out 8 swipes while the average woman matches 8/10. That means women aren't even matching with most men. MOST men don't have the OPPORTUNITY to launch out a dick pic. What that means is those two men getting matched are getting hundreds of matches. Basically they can do whatever the hell they want because they have what you termed indefinite supply. Think about it. If dick pics don't work why are certain men sending it?

I hate to break it to you, but any person of average intelligence can figure out dick pics don't work. If you're below average intelligence experience will eventually teach you dick pics don't work. Your advice is telling men to stop driving a car into a wall and then you walk away like your some kind of genius for that discovery. Let's just say you're not the brightest tool in the toolbox but that's besides the point. The point is that if there are still men sending dick pics it means for a certain segment of men it works. Like I said Chris hemsworth can send a dick pic to any woman and she will send him her current location and phone number and tell her to come pick her up in the middle of the night no creeper shit intended.

>Don't be fat. Don't be unemployed. Pay for the dinner. Do not put sex in the conversation.

rolls eyes the irony here is that fat is actually more acceptable for women. In terms of physicality women place the most desirability on height. "Don't be short" would be the perfect addition to your little list of useless tips. EVERYBODY knows about what you just said. Garbage.

The other thing, "Do not put sex in the conversation" just shows you have no game. Do you flirt? The art is to pick the time, pick that right place and work it into the conversation and get her horny. I'm guessing you play lame nice guy routines and get by purely off your looks. Lucky you, but you didn't earn shit and you certainly shouldn't be giving out advice given how little you know. The true players know the art of conversation and I've seen fat short guys get girls to break their rules and bed them on the first date. You aren't even close.

In fact your advice makes me wonder how long you can keep a woman.

>I can't stand men that make excuses in the style of yours

Bro, when the fuck did I make an excuse? I am simply spitting facts. I'm saying this is the current state of the world. I'm pointing out where your wrong and when things you say are patently false because you lack knowledge. The game is harder for men that's just reality in the same way the game is just harder for overweight women. It's reality. Stating facts is NOT an excuse. It's a statement about reality. Nowhere did I tell other men to give up, nor did I say I'm giving up, I'm just laying out the conditions of the field. Jesus. Now you're acting like your some expert guru.

>. If a woman is born "ugly", it's game over. She's probably going to be a bottom feeder on the dating market. I feel REALLY sorry for ugly women when I meet one, I have a sister that is in this situation and it is not a good life.

This is true. The game is unfortunately even harder for your sister depending on how ugly she is. It can very much be game over her if she's disfigured. Depending on how bad her situation is her only strategy is to lower her standards by a lot. Either way, this has NOTHING to do with what I'm saying.

You're acting like a dating coach, and I'm telling you, you don't know shit. You have no clue about what's going on with modern dating.

>Choose your destiny dude.

I'm in a fucking relationship. God. Wake up. It's just pure cringe watching you act like you know what you're talking about.