[dvt]

Introversion/extroversion is very surface-level. If you look at the study, you see that "value-oriented" traits (views on politics/religion/children/education/family etc.) tend to have higher correlation when compared to personality traits:

> Across analyses, political and religious attitudes, educational attainment and some substance use traits showed the highest correlations, while psychological (that is, psychiatric/personality) and anthropometric traits generally yielded lower but positive correlations.

See an interesting chart here[1]. Anecdotally, I'm also pretty introverted and attracted to extroverted women. On the other hand, I'm also a Christian and have a hard time dating someone that doesn't at least share some set of overlapping moral and ethical values. I also don't smoke, and could probably never date a habitual smoker (no matter how attractive she was on other axes).

[1] https://www.researchgate.net/publication/373552866/figure/fi...

[ecshafer]

Values is definitely the thing that needs to overlap. My wife and I have talked about this quite a bit, and my anecdata would roughly support the study. I think one person being anal, and the other carefree, outgoing vs homebody, that’s the opposites attract part. But if you have one person that thinks you need to go to church, or that school is the most important thing for a kid and the other doesn’t, it’s trouble. My wife and I are from different cultures and are different types of people, but are values really overlap where it counts.

[thfuran]

And hopefully you even mostly agree about where that is.