[chankstein38]

In my first job as an adult, my boss did this to me all of the time. I'd go into his office to ask him something and he'd tear me apart. He'd ask deeper questions and just make me feel stupid for not knowing things.

It definitely changed how I approach that stuff now and, as I've expressed in another comment, for the worse in some people's eyes. I have gotten reprimanded for NOT asking questions a couple times in more recent years and I'm confused as hell which is the right way to go with it.

My approach now adays is, if it's something I know to some degree or think I can find an answer to it, timebox to a small amount of digging before asking someone. It's imperfect and I wish there was a better solution but the only real solution seems to be expecting other people to be more gracious with my asks and there's no real way to control another person's reactions so I just shy away from asking.