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I kinda tried that with speaking and it blew back immensely and honestly only harmed me.

Focusing on other people faults and trying to avoid them made me super aware of any theoretical imperfection in what I was doing without making me able to do something actually good. I was not improving at all, I was just increasingly scared to do anything, because more and more words/acts whatever resembled something bad someone have done.

[BLKNSLVR]

I've had a similar thing trying to learn 'what not to do' from various management types I've had the displeasure to report to.

It's the longest possible path to learning how to do it right. There are an infinite number of wrong options, but precious few right ones. Just not stepping on the same land mines that someone else did step on doesn't mean you'll avoid the rest of the ones spread throughout the minefield. Much better to follow and learn the path of someone who knows the clear path.

The avoidance of specific bad can also equal bad. Just a different flavour.