Hacker News new | ask | show | jobs
by stevekemp 1020 days ago
My alarm is set to go off at 6AM, though I typically wake up a few minutes before it goes off. I make coffee, go outside to have a cigarette, and just generally chill for an hour.

At 7AM I walk across the park to my wife's house, and make a second cup of coffee. Sometimes I set out a breakfast bowl for her, and sometimes she's already awake.

7:15 I wake up our child, and gentle encourage him to get out of bed. By about 7:30 he's usually awake and alive. If not I physically carry him out of bed, and place him on the sofa, before I start to encourage him to eat some breakfast.

After he's eaten breakfast, gotten dressed, and brushed his teeth I take him out the door at 7:55. I walk him him to a neighbours house, and we wait outside there for their child to come out at 8AM. At 8:00, or 8:05, the two kids walk to school, alone, and I take a tram into the city center, later switching to a metro, and start my day at the office.

Weekends are similar, except my alarm doesn't get set at all and I tend to do nothing serious until 10AM.

1 comments

You sleep in a separate home from your family? Is this common where you’re from?
I do.

It's common enough that it has an acronym (LAT), and name "Living apart together":

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Living_apart_together

It's not super-common, anywhere, to the best of my knowledge. But it's also more common than you'd expect.

I enjoy LAT. Keeps the fire alive in the relationship with the LTR gf. And gives me enough space and freedom, to not feel trapped.