There seems to be something peculiarly British about child abuse. Probably as a result of the enduring popularity of boarding schools, judging from media reports, the number of convicted pedophiles and sex offenders seems, to me, so much higher than in other countries. Does anyone have any stats confirming or disproving my gut feeling?
Could there be any possibility that the number of convictions is an indicator that more action is being taken against this particular crime than might be in other places? Just another potential detail to influence your "gut feeling" there...
Interesting thought and worth exploring further. Funny enough, there was an index published a bit ago showing the UK to be the safest for children https://outoftheshadows.global/ but I have not investigated the details here or looked into the index's methodology or anything like that. There was also this https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6180456/ which aimed "to review studies using self-report maltreatment to capture prevalence rates worldwide."
Eton, where upper class boys are sent for a good part of their early life, has a strong connection to temporary homosexual connections, at least from the books I’ve read about the place.
There’s been arrests by teachers at Eton for the same reason. Child sexual abuse.
I don’t know that it involves rape, necessarily. From what I’ve read it sounds more like prison where horny men just make do. Eton and other boarding schools are where these kids live for many years.
Well yes, that's the whole point. In practice "make do" sex is all-too-likely to translate into abuse, driven by a mixture of sheer frustration (due to lack of the sought-after kind of sex partners) and a widespread culture based on physical domination within some toxic hierarchy of perceived masculinity. This is true both in prisons and elsewhere, e.g. in more general gender-segregated conditions as are common in some underdeveloped countries.
If make do sex translates to abuse then hook up culture is abuse culture.
Honestly, considering the criminal nature of rape, I thought people would be more careful throwing that word around but at this rate, if make do sex is rape, then of what use is the word rape, its become just another word for unsatisfying sex.
The whole concept of boarding school is strange really, I can't image that the products of it are healthy & balanced.. Being away from your family for so long so young can't be a good thing, I would have thought.
Having known a a few people who went through it then direct to Oxfridge, all it seems to lead into is a very preconceived notion that you’re smarter than other people because you went to “this school”. In fact I’ve found myself adding context and debating the opinions of some friends who clearly believe that because they went to Oxford/Eton they know everything there is to know about X. Actually they seem over intellectualised individuals, and not particularly smarter than the average pop just more well informed (there is a difference, they don’t necessarily have the critical thinking and creative expression of ie a Boston comedian). Proof of this is that Etonites aren’t in front of London startups innovating, they’re just funding them most of the time.
They all know each other as well and it’s a bit of a “blob” in terms of opinions. You hear from them the Telegraph or The Times type of opinions.
Can you supply some suggestions for further reading? That makes a lot of sense, I've had the same nagging question for some years now. I would be more relaxed if I could just blame the aristos and it wasn't something innate to our culture...
The idea that homosexuality (or heterosexuality, for that matter) is a permanent state the persists through everyone’s life not only ignores the existence of bisexuals but is also ahistorical and probably an artifact of certain societies needs for categorizing people. I suspect capitalism has something to do with it.
If by ahistorical you mean we do not conform to Greek and Roman era of homosexual activity, you have to keep in mind there were societal pressures at the time as well. I don't think you can take those eras as a gold standard of laissez-faire approach to sexuality.
For the record, I am gay guy and whilst I can identify an attractive woman, it is such a fleeting attraction I can't ever imagine mustering the activation energy to even try.
Maybe it’s permanent for some and not for others? Either way, if you make the argument that it’s temporary, then people will push for stuff like conversion therapy
So ig because conversion therapy is harmful people make this premature conclusion that it’s permanent
People have all kinds of sex for all kinds of complex reasons, and have throughout history. You’re right that the repression of same sex attraction / expression / intercourse has led us to a place where “Born This Way!” Is the safest way to pose it.
I have met men who didn’t find other men attractive in any substantial way under their wives died. I have met gay men who married women because they fell in love with a certain woman, and sexual attraction resulted.
Prisons, gender segregated societies, and single gender schools are places where homosexual acts happen. It doesn’t really say much about the people themselves.
For some people, maybe most, attraction is “stable,” but whether that has something to do with their innate being or the conditions they live in, it’s hard to say.
As this point, personally, I see sexuality as less an identity or state and more of just an expression of what a person happens to desire over a certain period of time. Sexual desire isn’t all that different from hunger (the ASL signs for these are almost identical). A person could spend years of their life really into a certain set of foods, and then discover they’re into others. I used to hate mushrooms, now I love them. Hormones, environment, society… all of these impact “sexuality.”
Half the males of my cohort (siblings, cousins) were victim of one uncle. Only surfaced a decade later.
One of my siblings was later victim of a priest. Escaped a bad situation only to end up in hell.
I somehow avoided my uncle. Though later, in 4th grade (10yo) a teacher groped me. And much later that creepy too-friendly teacher in middle school was busted (preying on females).
So just from my own anecdata, I assume it much higher, every where, than people acknowledge.