[croes]

Is there an article showing a solution because listing problems is the easy part?

And maybe it's just me but

>because names are central to our identities, virtually by definition.

isn't true, my name is for the outside world, inside I'm just I, that's my identity.

[sundarurfriend]

In this case, "listing problems" - as you dismissively call it - takes a lot of care and effort, the article is a distillation of experience and knowledge that very few possess. It's up to you to use this understanding of the problem space to decide which aspects you're willing to trade off. The article's job is to help people make these tradeoffs consciously, instead of designing based on simplistic assumptions made in ignorance.

[nhinck2]

There is no "a solution" and never will be. Design your solution to be maximally relevant to your scenario and accept that it can't be perfect.

[danparsonson]

>>because names are central to our identities, virtually by definition.

>isn't true, my name is for the outside world, inside I'm just I, that's my identity.

What happens in your head when someone calls your name? Surely that's a feeling of identity?

[croes]

>What happens in your head when someone calls your name? Surely that's a feeling of identity?

I realize that someone is talking to me, but that has nothing to do with my identity. I doubt that that person and I have the same perception of who I am.

[danparsonson]

>..someone is talking to me..

I think the discrepancy here is just different definitions of the word 'identity'. If someone is talking 'to you' then you are identified by that. It's not about your unique internal world, but about your uniqueness among humans (like a primary key identifies a database row).

[brigandish]

You don't refer to yourself in private by your own name?

[Toutouxc]

Do you? I only say my own name when I’m introducing myself to someone.

[brigandish]

On my own, I use my own name and pronouns. Not ever said or thought something like "Toutouxc, what are you doing?"

[Toutouxc]

Nope, literally never. The idea of talking to myself using my own name is even a bit unpleasant, actually. I don’t have a bad name, I just don’t use it in my relationship with myself. Just like I know and like the name of my girlfriend, but I seldom address her by the name, we usually use the honey/love/baby equivalents.

[sethammons]

What you are suggesting is talking in 3rd person. It is odd when someone does that.

[brigandish]

To oneself, in private, you never or have never referred to yourself by your own name?

[sneak]

I had no part in choosing any of the names assigned to me at birth; I don't use them and don't particularly feel any attachment to them.

[croes]

No, I refer to myself as I.

Without others I would never use my name.