[angmarsbane]

I don't think it is an absurd or even high standard to want reasonably priced (30% of income) shelter (whether owned or rented) within a reasonable commuting distance (30 mins one-way) of a job.

Am I truly out in left field on this?

[speakfreely]

You're solving for this with the constraint being your job. If you tried to solve this problem with family being the constraint and the job and financial situation being more variable, all of a sudden your options open up. Your constraints show your priorities.

[throwawaysleep]

You don't want just a job. You probably want an elite and interesting job, which for a dev to be paying out a large percentage of their salary is probably in San Francisco or Seattle or New York.

You could take a boring remote job with more average pay out in Kansas if family were a priority and pay off a house in a year or two.