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by brightball 1031 days ago
My wife and I went to New Spring Church in South Carolina for about 6 years and really enjoyed it. The pastors were great communicators and kept my attention much better than churches I'd been to in the past. Actually got me curious and interested enough to finally read the Bible. I love talking about it now too.

The way that I explain it to people is like this. It's Christianity 101. They do an excellent job of creating a low pressure "come as you are" environment and that is really critical. In the same way the people tend to leave jobs because of bad management, they often leave churches because of bad experiences with some of the members. When you go to a more traditional church, there's often an expectation to dress a certain way or to feel like you don't want to draw attention to yourself. I've heard this referred to as the Christian Pageant Show.

A lot of mega churches have called this out and invite people to come as they are. Shorts, t-shirts, flip flops. Some people dress up. There is no right way to hear the Gospel. As this has been called out more, it's had an influence on a lot of other churches to realize...you know what, they're 100% right. Everybody dressing up is great if they're doing it for the reason of "bringing your best to God" but you're creating an environment where people feel like they don't fit in if they aren't doing that.

Taken a step farther, people will often act like they have it all together in more traditional churches. They'll think they are supposed to. The reality is that this is supposed to be the place where you can share your struggles. You tend to need to get involved and get to know people a little bit more before you're comfortable doing that in a lot of cases.

Now, I say all that to say this: going to a church like New Spring (I can't speak for all mega churches) is an ideal place to go if you don't have a church home or don't want a bunch of people coming up to you afterwards, inviting you to lunch and trying to get to know you. Sometimes that's great, but if you just want to walk in and see what this is all about you want the same level of pressure you'd feel if you were going to a movie theater...zero. This also creates an environment that is REALLY easy to invite people into, because you know they won't have to worry about fitting in either. It's great like that.

We attended for about 6 years. Volunteered. Tithed regularly. I remembered being excited about going to church for the first time in my life. I learned all sorts of stuff that I didn't know and I actually remembered sermons better than I ever did before too. It got through to me, made sense and though it's a bigger story for another time...changed my life for the better.

But after 6 years we also realized we just didn't know many people. We wanted to go somewhere that had adult Sunday School classes, so we changed to a more traditional church.

After having gone through what I call "Christianity 101" I felt a lot more like I fit in this environment now. We'd have a discussion and I could actually participate instead of sitting quietly in the back of the room. I could ask questions, add discussion points and even offer AND back up some corrections on things that a lot of people thought but weren't really biblically supported.

After enough of this, I actually got asked to help teach and did a couple of times a month for a little over a year. Really liked that too. Prepared and presented just like I would for a programming talk and that got really interesting as well.

I go down really strange rabbit holes when I'm researching to teach. Eventually, I even started blogging about it.

Like, the origins of Hercules:

https://www.readnotmisled.org/p/was-herculesjewish-biblical-...

Or does the math show that Solomon was potentially depressed?

https://www.readnotmisled.org/p/solomons-country-song

I don't write as often as I probably should, but I'm going to try to pick it up a little more in the future.

Anyway, I hope that answers your question. It basically boils down to people often not feeling like they fit in the church where they are, for one reason or another, and these mega churches are designed specifically to create an environment where there's no pressure to fit in. There's a lot of appeal to that.