[sealeck]

I would not marry anyone who given the option of buying thing A @ X units of currency/kg and a chemically identical version of thing A @ 3X units of currency/kg would pick the option which is 3 times more expensive for the sole reason of "status".

[jiggawatts]

Yeah, that’s an easy thing to say. Try saying that to the love of your life and see how that works out for you.

[ChainOfFools]

As someone who passed up getting married several times, not specifically because of disagreements about diamonds but with women who would certainly have responded to such a disagreement as a huge red flag if not a deal breaker, stories like this remind me why it was worth wading through 20 years of heartbreak and occasional loneliness until I stumbled into someone who - in addition to checking all the usual boxes and then some - could not care less about "authentic" chunks of rock. at. all.

Ironically her degree and academic research career are both very much concerned with authenticating the provenence of ancient stuff dug out of the ground. Just not lizard-brain shiny rocks.

[tuatoru]

That's a red flag for the relationship right there.

If "not wasting money" is a core value for you, but "status" is more important for your partner, things will go sour sooner or later.

Of course it's very difficult to be rational in limerence.

[jiggawatts]

Seeking high social status in a male partner is a good reproductive strategy for human females. That’s why so many women like Veblen goods and why ugly billionaires have gorgeous wives.

Pretending that normal human behaviour is a “red flag” is a path towards conflict and unhappiness.

Sure, you can find outliers that don’t care about such things, but not everyone can marry only a minority of women.

[coldtea]

>Seeking high social status in a male partner is a good reproductive strategy for human females.

So is taking them for a ride, getting half of their assets and house, and having relationships and babies with other man.

So?

>Sure, you can find outliers that don’t care about such things, but not everyone can marry only a minority of women.

No, but a huge majority can be divorsed at 40, paying alimony, losing half their assets, and wondering why they listened to stupid advice based on "normal human behaviour" and "good reproductive strategies".

Funny also how this "normal human behaviour" and "good reproductive strategies" it's just manifested in the form of a demand for an expensive rock in the US, almost as it's a BS cultural thing and not some evolutionary standard.

No woman in this parts of Europe (and many others I know of) would care for such BS, unless she's the type that goes for older rich guys with expensive cars and yaughts too.

[postalrat]

If that's ok then you really aren't much different and may be a good match.

[coldtea]

If personality and ethics matters at all in this "love of your life" thing (and nor just bodily features), then it should be a huge red flag that she isn't in love, and shouldn't be the love of your life.

[Red_Leaves_Flyy]

Some people have been trying to make inclusions the new fetch which is stupid since if are so much better. Diamond does have superiority something like moassinite but the cost differential is way more than 3x for minor differences in wearability.