[amriksohata]

Asian origin here with fairly conservative parents. Raised kids myself and understand how hard it is. It was for my parents but my mum didnt work nor did my grandma so they spent all the time with them and the dads just focused on their work and came home not having to think about anything else.

I'm not saying only Dads should work. But what I'm saying is back in the day 1 person could work and still make ends meet and now 2 people work, we have more hectic lives and no time for kids, plus the cost and no real incentive for having kids. Back in the day societal pressures/religion would mean you would have kids.

Now I can see a lot of people around me asking the question, why bother for all that stress? I feel this is self inflicted in richer countries.