[mollybee]

The sentence could definitely be worded better. When I first read it, I had a similar thought, but upon further reading, I realized I was making a very large and unfair assumption. It's not exactly a secret that people who are already doing pretty well are the ones who have the energy and capacity to make further progress. Struggling with mental health issues, especially executive dysfunction, makes it harder to to do the work required to improve one's mental health. That reality is endlessly frustrating but undeniable. Someone who's not ready to move forward may not have the capacity to benefit from the structure and content of coaching. Coaching is all about taking active steps toward goals between sessions. It takes a lot of energy and effort. When I was just barely treading water, I didn't have the energy for that kind of work. I had to get to that point through therapy, support from friends, and a LOT of rest. Sure, I could have talked to my coach once a week, but I wouldn't have had the capacity to benefit as much as I do now. That doesn't mean it would have been "my fault" if I didn't benefit from coaching; it means I wouldn't have been a good fit, and Shimmer probably wouldn't have taken my money.

[christalwang]

Thank you for sharing your thought process & feedback taken on the wording. I'll go back to this one. And I really do appreciate you sharing your personal story. Especially the last part where you acknowledge that we wouldn't have kept coaching if you weren't in the right space. This is true in that we have gently recommended pauses to several members when they weren't in the right headspace to continue with coaching and weren't in a space to benefit. This is true across most coaching modalities, in terms of the focus on forward movement and the need for the capacity to support this. I personally have both a founder coach and an ADHD coach, and can attest to the amount of work necessary outside of sessions to create sustainable results. Once again, thank you for sharing your story, and wholeheartedly agree that it's not about "fault", just about fit!