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by chasing 1038 days ago
I consider myself a staunch centrist on the "ask" vs. "guess" scale. :-)

I ask all the time! And I'm totally comfortable with "no." But I try to consider the other person first because I think making unreasonable requests repeatedly, which is the subtext of their description of an "asker," blows social capital and just bugs people.
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aidenn0 1038 days ago
Making unreasonable requests repeatedly is a form of harassment not "Ask culture."

It's not like people in ask cultures just go around asking random strangers to hand over all their money...

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LinXitoW 1038 days ago
But that's ask culture in the end. Guess people can only guess, whereas ask can always guess, but then fallback to asking.

Guess also assumes a very similar shared context and understanding. This leads to xenophobia, because "those foreigners" seem so rude simply because they "guess" with a different contexts. Again, asking is superior.

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skeaker 1038 days ago
I think that's a given that needn't be mentioned in the article. The author isn't stupid, and clearly wouldn't advocate for making outlandish or completely unreasonable requests even for the "askers" mindset.
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