[someguy7250]

And then there are people like me, I only have hard skills and not enough soft skills. People end up not trusting me because they find out I'm hiding skills. And I end up not using them, and not even trying to convince people what's the right thing to do

[hsjqllzlfkf]

And whose fault is it for being aware that you lack skills but refusing to develop them?

[coldtea]

Not everybody can develop such skills just because they wish so.

[hsjqllzlfkf]

Indeed, wishing is not enough. It requires hard work.

[coldtea]

Better take up that hard work then, because this response doesn't really signal "social skills".

I was talking about mental health issues (from genetic stuff like autism to PTSD and social anxiety) that prevent those social skills from developing, regardless of work (any more than someone with depression can just "work" on being happier).

[hsjqllzlfkf]

I know exactly what you were talking about, because my social skills are amazing. And my response is the same - hard work.

[LatteLazy]

I'm not sure I follow you. Why are you hiding your skills?

[someguy7250]

Here is an example where I would have had a better day if I simply didn't show my skills to anyone

https://news.ycombinator.com/context?id=37308823