Most people have lower than average social value, and fewer than average # of sex partners. This is because both tend to be distributed according to a power law.
Certainly true, however most people also don't think their social value is something they can work on. Hence a feeling of helplessness that they project onto others.
Learning to work a crowd is like learning a programming language. Humans are individuals, but they tent to have the same basic needs and desires - to be entertained and sexually stimulated is among them.
He then projects this situation onto other men, and refuses to acknowledge his own weakness, to increase his own feeling of self worth.