[fullmoon]

> For example, if all of your best friends agree on one thing, and you’re like, yeah, they just don’t get it: you’re in denial.

That is dangerously close to woo, but is a good example on the lack of rigor in the field.

Of course, any true believer disagreeing with me will can now just point towards me being in denial.

[bardan]

Yeah this is what bothers me. Any argument that has an innate, automatic means of dismissing criticism is innately worth dismissing automatically.

[H8crilA]

The article is exaggerating to make a point. It is usually, or almost always, true that people around you know more about what you should do in such situations than you do.

[trabant00]

> people around you know more about what you should do in such situations than you do

Nobody knows the entire story of what you're going through better than you. People around you know bits and pieces. They do not have the time and energy to devote to your problems, they are making quick and dirty judgments. The often suggest something you've already tried. Or a solution they think solved a problem of theirs that superficially resembles yours. Or just what the current culture generally accepts.

And since we're talking psychology here I'm gonna go ahead and be keyboard Freud: saying that everybody knows better than you is just your low self esteem talking. I would have had a miserable life if I went with what people around me thought I should do.

[trabant00]

That quote bothered me the most out of the entire article. It's indoctrination 101 - if you don't believe/agree there is something wrong with you.