Never understood this “call them incel” movement. It neither earns you respect nor makes a point. Even if they are involuntarily celibate, what does that mean in this context? It’s involuntary. You being a jerk to a (figuratively) disabled person who complains that ramps only lead to places which have seen life.
Words change their meanings and it currently denotes a disgusting misogynistic group. The usage you refer to is only the dog whistle they run under, similarly to nazis.
This only makes it even more puzzling as the usage was yours. Having an opinion about whom you would marry and for which reasons isn’t mysogynistic, afaiu. If your main concern is wording “giving it up”, how could one rephrase it?
Look at all the comments in this thread of the HNer in question. They are free to have an opinion on who to marry, or even of people. Nonetheless, I can also freely have the opinion of someone being a shitty human based on his beliefs, especially when that belief is objectifying women.
Could you please point to a comment where he does objectify women? I skimmed through all of them but not sure which one you could read this way. Or, if this term also drifted, I’d like to know what it means now.
I’m starting to suspect that you may be involuntarily gaslighting me looking through the lens of your own perception.
If we're talking about some hypothetical woman with 23 partners, what is the issue with objectifying her a bit? She's obviously objectifying the men. Sees someone who looks nice, sleep with them, move on.
If neither side is in it for the long term relationship then they are in it for the hot body. That isn't being a "shitty human", it is just being realistic about the sort of relationship they are in.
You can't shame someone for the worldview that women "Give up sex" in the same sentence you shame them for not managing to get sex as a man. It doesn't make sense.