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by hef19898 1046 days ago
The love of my life is not my property. Her or his decision entirely, I ak jot entitled to any specific behavior from any other person if that person really doesn't want to.

Hobestly, Incels are better of on Reddit. So, please, just go there.
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badpun 1046 days ago
It's not the point. You might also not want the love of your life to say, do gross things in front of you, because it puts you off on a biological level. Of course, it's her choice to do it if she wishes to, but it's also your prerogative to be put off by it.
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subjectsigma 1046 days ago
I do not believe for a single second that you don’t feel any sort of obligation towards your spouse nor expect them to feel any obligation to you. It’s also absurd to think people don’t have expectations for their partners before they actually get married, which include behaviors.

This kind of thinking (totally detached from reality, tone policing of others) is more incel than the guy you’re replying to who I think might be a literal incel

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hef19898 1046 days ago
Obligation? Sure, of course I do. It does stop so at turning myself into someone I am not, nor do I expect that from my spouse. It is a voluntary partnership, one that requires work, that is uphold as long as both parties want to. It is not a prison, and will never make my spouse feel being obliged to stay with me. The 50s are over.
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subjectsigma 1045 days ago
I stopped smoking cigarettes because a girl said she wouldn’t date me unless I cleaned up my act. Probably saved my health and who knows, maybe my life. At the time it felt like an undue burden - even though I knew I shouldn’t smoke, stopping was painful. I did stop though, and only briefly restarted when we eventually broke up.

My point is people expecting their spouse to change for them is not exclusively masculine behavior, not always toxic, and not particularly uncommon. I don’t get why “having few to no sexual partners” is regarded as so heinous. It doesn’t mean they are some MRA wacko.

Maybe you are so passionate about sexual freedom, you should stop poo-poo’ing strangers on the internet for their sexual preferences

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