[dusted]

Personally, I'd prefer a partner who has not been overly promiscuous, because I myself have not.

It affects me in multiple ways, for one, I'm looking for long-term stability, and while I don't think there's anything morally wrong with having many partners, it suggests there is something about that person that does not align with that.

I don't believe people change very much, I believe people think they change very much.

The most chaotic people I know are the ones who "have finally gotten to the right place in their life" all the fucking time.. They're the people who will buy a sweater and declare with a relaxed breath how now their life is finally complete and they wish for nothing further.

From that perspective, I don't believe a person with a large amount of previous partners have "finally found the right one", because, that's what they said the last N times.

Again, absolutely nothing wrong with having many partners, but it's my belief that the many-partner-people are more well suited for other many-partner-people than with me personally.

[Hermitian909]

> it suggests there is something about that person that does not align with that.

I think this is insufficiently nuanced (assuming you wouldn't reject someone for going on a lot of dates and being picky). Many people have come to the conclusion that sexual chemistry is really important to a good relationship and thus try to test that as early as possible. This is quite different from sleeping around "for fun".

I've only ever been interested in long-term committed relationships and racked up a high-ish body count this way. One to two dates, clear it's not going to work out, keep looking. I've now been in a long term relationship for over a decade and imagine I'll be in it till I die, many of my friends are in similar positions.