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by distant_hat 1048 days ago
To be fair, it isn't always profit from. I've been with some higher body count partners, between the good sides, they also often have negatives, people who have broken their boundaries, triggers formed because someone did something they might not have wanted and so on. And then it happens that they may not want to do something with you because it reminds them of some asshole from the past and so on. In a casual relationship, this is fine, but its tough being in a serious relationship with such elements.
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This isn’t universal to having multiple partners though as sexual abuse can occur with only a single relationship and very obviously also outside of a relationship.
i think you are making the parent's point:

>> This isn’t universal to having multiple partners though as sexual abuse can occur with only a single relationship and very obviously also outside of a relationship.

statistically, it is proven that those unfortunate people go on to be very promiscuous in life

That's a bit different, the issues with trauma from sexual abuse can lead to sexual promiscuity but it doesn't follow that having multiple sexual partners means you are suffering trauma from sexual abuse. And neither imply what an individual would be comfortable doing in a sexual relationship.
If you are a better athlete than me, you are doping. Or some such logic. Some people have more sex than others, both are good.
Yup! In particular judging someone on a single axis and using that to come to conclusions about what sex acts they'll do or won't do with you is a very jaundiced, objectifying way to look at another human.