[JennyWeston]

Dating apps fail due to an inherent asymmetry.

A small percentage of the population will attract a large percentage of the dating pool.

A large percentage of the population will attract a small percentage of the dating pool.

The job of a dating app is to give the appearance of progress and engagement to a very wide segment of the market. It sells hope and false positives.

Better? 1) Learn core social skills. Making people feel good about themselves is fundamentally attractive. 2) Upgrade listening skills. People who make others feel heard and understood are very attractive. 3) Do stuff. Fun stuff. Whatever leads to your personal happiness. Happy engaged people are attractive. 4) Stop using dating apps. Suck it up. Face confusion, rejection, and bad choices. Learn what you need to learn. Improve. Wash - rinse - repeat. People who have earned their confidence and skills are very attractive. 5) Learn to laugh at yourself. 6) Have real friends. Do stuff with them. There is a direct relationship between having good friends and feeling good about life. 6.5) Keep social media to a minimum. It sucks your attention and gives you envy.