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by brachika 1063 days ago
I never experienced the level of immersiveness of the author, but I did daydream quite a lot all the way into my early 20s. I would completely ignore my professors during my classes, I would talk with myself when I walked home, I would dissociate myself from reality imagining all kinds of different scenarios.

How I solved this? Well, not by myself. One of the topics of my daydreams was this girl that I was infatuated with. Long story short, we somehow get together, I realize that our relationship wasn't exactly going on the way I imagined it, we break up, I go through quite a depressive, suicidal period, I lose most of my friends. Completely unrelated, two years after I had to do a surgery which kinda grounded me more into reality. Since then, I rarely daydream, it is like my imaginary world was shattered by this moment. It is like I finally 'grew'.
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rambambram 1063 days ago
> One of the topics of my daydreams was this girl that I was infatuated with.

Sounds familiar. Any chance she was of the cluster b type?

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brachika 1063 days ago
Oh yeah. Extremely narcissistic, controlling, 'better than you' type of person. Used to let me recover for a couple of weeks then stomped me again. That whole experience completely destroyed my daydreaming experience because in my imagination everything was rosy with unicorns, when it was toxic as hell in real life.
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rambambram 1063 days ago
Especially with empaths, they can sort of take over your mind for a while. I had the same experience in the past, although it was definitely distinguishable from the daydreaming I knew, which was more often just activated because of boredom at school or as a "passive pastime" in the train.
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noodles_nomore 1063 days ago
Please explain how you made this connection.
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rambambram 1063 days ago
The word "infatuation" says enough, especially if we're talking (young) adults, and not the kind of puppy love we expect from teenagers. If you're an adult and you feel infatuated, you might mistake that for love, then check if you're dealing with a narcissist or other cluster B disordered person, and also see if you yourself are an empath or highly empathetic.
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balfirevic 1063 days ago
> and also see if you yourself are an empath

How do I see this, is there a test or something like that?

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rambambram 1063 days ago
I found the Youtube videos from dr. Abdul Saad of Vital Mind Coaching very insightful.
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