[cableshaft]

You mention that he doesn't stay in bad situations for long. How is he with romantic relationships? That attitude sounds like someone who probably wouldn't stick around through the first rough patch, so probably hasn't had too many long-term romantic relationships.

Not making a value judgement, just curious if that he approaches them the same as he does with work, or if he treats those a bit differently.

[amerkhalid]

Good question, in his twenties, he dated a lot and yes he was very picky. He did have one longterm relationship in his twenties though.

He settled last among our friends group. He is about 40 now. He has been married for about 5 years and before than he was with same girl for another 2-3 years.

His wife is a bit similar to him. Though I have never heard her complain about anything but art and literature are very important to both of them. Not just that they have very similar likes and dislikes. One major difference might be she is vegan and he is not. While every couple has their issues but, tbh, it seems they have fewer issues than average.

So it is like he found his soulmate and he is able to commit. (No kids yet.)

[davidschof]

I really want him to reply now. Interested if his self-perception is that he is one of the happiest people he knows.

[amerkhalid]

Ok I got curious too and texted him asking what he thought of his happiness level compared to an average person.

And his answer totally destroys everything I just said about him. He thinks he is less happy than an average person. He is happy but thinks average person is happier.

(I will stop now, and continue this discussion with him when we meet in person).