[antonkar]

Yes, I never said that CBT is completely correct in every regard. I was just shocked to see an articles based on a book that mentions souls on Hacker News. CBT is actually researched and quite effective unlike the book of former chakra practitioner Karla McLaren. We cannot change emotions directly, we can only change our thoughts and it will change our emotions. I recommend reading Beck directly in addition to counseling, it really helps. Sadly some psychologists are not great. Wish you the best!

[roguecoder]

Ah, I see the confusion: this book isn't about changing our emotions. It is about learning from them.

There are aspects of CBT that are essentially gaslighting ourselves, ignoring the information we could get from our emotional responses in favor of becoming more socially acceptable. It is part of why it is contraindicated in cases of cPTSD.

This book is about a very different goal. It is about what can be learned from our built-in sensors, rather than how we silence their alerts.

[maleldil]

> There are aspects of CBT that are essentially gaslighting ourselves

Could you be more specific? I'm another patient undergoing CBT, and I've found it overall helpful in managing BPD. I'm curious what you mean by this.

[antonkar]

I don’t think you need to worry. Beck was literally writing down all his thoughts down for many months and analyzing them and that way he came up with the idea of CBT in the first place. It’s results oriented but when you reach your goals you can continue changing even the most inconsequential thoughts and emotions. No gaslighting involved. Quite the opposite)