[JohnFen]

> common feedback is "I can't see myself wanting to grab a beer with him".

Wow. I've been part of interviewing teams for tons of people, at a number of companies, over decades. I have never once heard anyone express anything like this about an applicant.

The discussions are more about whether or not they can do the job and whether or not they'd be a good fit on the team, not whether or not anyone wants to socialize with them.

[conductr]

I’ve experienced both. I’ve entered cultures that were pretty toxic about it. It’s usually the “we do 10 day team offsites in $PARTY_CITY” every couple months kind of places that are the worst. But also the benevolent mission type companies can be pretty weird about culture as well.