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by jahsome 1066 days ago
How often do you tell people no? I find it pretty common to get a visceral reaction when I disagree with people, and that's even after spending years working on delivering that disagreement in more friendly ways, both professionally and personally.

I think it's a relatively universal human trait to resent dissent, these guys just have more resources to make their distate known.

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IMHO emotional maturity is learning to accept these feelings in one’s self, sit with them, and reflect on them. Not make them go away.

Just saying yes as a parent doesn’t help them learn to cope with it. Rather a close similarity to GP’s point!

> How often do you tell people no?

A few times a day.

> I find it pretty common to get a visceral reaction when I disagree with people,

I only find this common with people who are very sensitive (not that there is anything at all wrong with that). An interesting corollary I've found as well: very sensitive people tend to think the rest of the normal world is equally as sensitive (something I've picked up from having a very sensitive partner for over 5 years now; a partner who has many very sensitive friends); they somehow seem to forget that countries like Germany have people that are super direct as the norm.

> I think it's a relatively universal human trait to resent dissent

I hear far "worse" from good friends on the spectrum or from Germany or Russia and it's rather easy to chalk it up to them just communicating in a different way.

Many billionaires, especially the top celebrity billionaires, seem to have extremely disordered and malignant personalities. Narcissism and sociopathy seem to run strong in these individuals. Their money amplifies and multiplies the reach and effect of their narcissism.

Most people when they hear “no” feel a little upset and get over it.

When a narcissist hears “no” he suffers a narcissistic injury and seeks revenge.

When a narcissistic billionaire hears “no”… well, buckle up. 1/6 showed us how bad that can get.

> 1/6 showed us how bad that can get.

I think it didn't even scratch the surface of how bad it can get. But it was already plenty bad.

What or who is '1/6' ?
It was the day a narcissistic billionaire (Trump) decided he had the right to burn the whole system (American democracy) to the ground because he was rejected by it.

Which is also the story of Twitter and Musk.

January 6th.