[ganbatekudasai]

I have close experience with not one but two people with BPD, over a long time, and before and after treatment (no medication involved). You wouldn't know they have (or "had"?) BPD.

One thing I noticed is that the popular stereotypes about people with BPD (which is unpleasant stuff) appears to not be true. Or rather, I bet it is true quite often, but not a direct result of BPD.

Rather, it seems to be what happens when people with BPD don't know how to deal with it. The underlying condition seems to be "emotions are really strong" and especially "internal emotional feedback loops", and if you don't know what's happening, I totally get how someone might confusingly react accordingly to what they are feeling in a bad way: Lashing out, paranoia, accusations, oscillating between thinking someone is a saint versus someone is terrible...

The two people I know both have been in talk therapy (not anymore), and they are generally very introspective. Knowing what they know, they seem to be perfectly able to separate their internal tumult from reality, and appear generally pleasant at least to me. A big part seems to be to recognize the feedback loops early and breaking out of them. That was different in the now distant past, but again, I totally get how their confusion back then led to that past behavior...