[anon291]

> What are some workarounds to make parenting easier and keeping my sanity while working a high pressure job? I feel very tired and can barely get any work done ( work from home) .

Realistically, you / your partner / both of you should reconsider this 'high-pressure' job. Exactly what is it achieving in your life? I made the decision to take a much less pressure job (and actually went back to IC from an eng manager). I even make less money, but I'm way happier. There is no point to working if your actual life is miserable. Now I get to spend time with my kids and do fun things all the time instead of constantly being worried about my team / our work.

From my experience with my own children and others, the parents with the highest-pressure jobs tend to have kids that are just less well adjusted. Spend time with your kids; ignore everyone else.