[sidewndr46]

If you read the post, it's clear that is not what happened here. OP set the budget. Wife did not follow it.

[itsmemattchung]

There’s a I’me assumptions that were made here. To clarify, we set the budget together.

[sidewndr46]

Based on the account you provided, your wife only agreed to it as a matter of conversation. Not as a matter of practice.