I just assume they all are. Then, when someone gives me an actually thought-out reason for why they did something and it seems plausibly pre-hoc (so to speak), I can be legitimately surprised and delighted. But in all honesty, I’m talking about early-to-mid teenagers, for whom most random outbursts are just that, random. Which is not, as it turns out, that big a deal. Adults get huffy because they take it personally. Dudes and dudettes, they’re teenagers. Chill.