moreover, because I'm working in a relatively big org I know whatever "tough" decision to be made very likely comes from upper management, so no real reason to get mad at your direct manager
I agree, but as someone who is from top management it also happened several times, that middle management does push the responsibility on upper management, because people tend to believe so. And so the manager doesn't have to deal with bad feelings towards themselves. As higher you go on the ladder, as more likely people think everything is your mistake (that is partially true, but not everything).
We live in a world where the average CEO is paid 70x the median pay of their employees, and some CEOs are paid 300x the median pay of their employees[1]. If that's proportional to responsibility, then the 1.42% (or 0.33%) that is the employee's responsibility is negligible. And if that isn't proportional to responsibility, then CEOs should be paid more proportionately to their responsibility.
What I hear in this post is people taking orders of magnitude more credit for successes but whining when they're held equally responsible for failures.