[prmph]

> he said into the black box that when a man kills his wife, it's the wife's fault.

That's not what I read. He said a woman can drive the man crazy. The use of the word "crazy" show that the captain understood that such an action would be madness. He simply highlighted how interactions with their wives could be so infuriating to some men that they do crazy things.

[reso]

He absolutely did say that. He specifically references the female co-worker he had a shouting match with the previous day, and then says:

"These are the kind of women you don’t wanna get married to. You know, some men, they lose their temper and the next thing you know, the wife is dead... it’s the woman who can drive you to do crazy stuff, you know?"

The idea that this is some kind of passive, context-free observation that some men kill their wives after getting frustrated with them is absurd.

[prmph]

Whoa. Yes, the altercation with the woman copilot is the context. It doesn't change what the Captain said: > "These are the kind of women you don’t wanna get married to. You know, some men, they lose their temper and the next thing you know, the wife is dead... it’s the woman who can drive you to do crazy stuff, you know?"

How do you go from the statement above to: when a man kills his wife, it's the wife's fault? He is simply saying the wife's behavior is a factor, nothing more.

[reso]

It's bizarre that you feel the need excuse this guy by adding words to his statement like "factor" that he didn't say.