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by tomrod 1087 days ago
When discussing with someone, proper manners enlightens a discussant to avoid painting them into a proverbial corner, since such is a negative interaction.

From what I read, the person worked their tush off to get through a graduate program, then pushed for more money in a career.

What aspect of this do you find privileging? Working their tush off? Pushing for opportunities?

A small set of comments online tells one nothing about the background of a person, unless one actively looks for dog whistles and shibboleths.
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lumiukko 1087 days ago
It appeared they rant about how "doing all the things in life later" was the biggest drawback and continues to contradict the point by providing a timeline that places them at 33yo with all of the listed life goals achieved, starting with a graduation (I assume by the context, with a PhD, at 27). Some of such life goals are not even achievable for some. It sounds like a simple attempt to humble-brag.

Assuming that they worked their tush off or pushed for opportunities also sounds coming from some privileged background, as it seems to assume that hard work and proper initiative would be sufficient in achieving such things, while for some people the first guard is already getting the necessary elementary education, while being in a stable and safe environment.

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tomrod 1087 days ago
Paradoxically it is privileged to think that people who didn't get sufficient, necessary elementary education yet did bust their tushes to succeed in academia don't exist in sufficient quantity to be seen on a high traffic internet board.

Rather than looking at your neighbor's privilege, it's better to introspect on our own and how we can use to for others.

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calf 1087 days ago
> Rather than looking at your neighbor's privilege, it's better to introspect on our own and how we can use to for others.

Then why don't you tell that to the other guy who openly complained about a PhD time-shifting their life plans???

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tomrod 1086 days ago
Because I don't view that as privilege. I view that as goals accomplished, which _may_ have been influenced by privilege.
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