[jonjon16]

I know the grass seems always greener on the other side and this culture has its own set of problems but I still think I would prefer this over what the west has to offer in the dating market. I absolutely hate the ambiguity of the relationship in the west, “Dating? I’m not sure, we have only started sleeping together a month ago. They might still be seeing other people.” And yes, not everywhere is like this but around my parts, seeking a serious relationship is a recipe for disaster and not something worth spending any sort of asset for.

[seszett]

> the west

> “Dating? I’m not sure, we have only started sleeping together a month ago. They might still be seeing other people.”

This seems specifically American to me, and I think this is a weird thing to most Europeans.

[makeitdouble]

The grass looks greener because the article depicts a reality that follows TV plots and comics.

In practice teenagers are horny and will fuck around if they can, and their relationship can be as blurry. Same for adults going to bars and having one night stands, or ducking it out while drunk after a party and being in limbo trying to to sort it out for weeks afterwards.

Same for online dating of course, wanting to be sure the alchemy is there before mentally commiting isn't some culture's exclusive trait.

[mock-possum]

The only ambiguity is what you put there - my past two serious relationships have started with hookups, progresses to hangouts, and eventually reached the point where I’ve said, “hey, do you want to be my boyfriend?” Followed by a discussion about what that means re: exclusivity etc.

If you haven’t had that, it’s because you’ve chosen not to partake.

[asdfasgasdgasdg]

It doesn't have to be ambiguous. If you want to be exclusive with someone, just say so. If they don't want to be exclusive with you after a month of dating, you're probably never going to get there and you're better off cutting your losses.