[Hexigonz]

I posted a short clip of my son dancing on Tik tok. It went viral very unexpectedly (I don’t make content about my personal life). With over 1 million views, I was riding high on that dopamine hit. However, someone reached out to me about the topic of not only my son’s privacy (he was only 2 at the time) and even worse, the fact that predators anywhere could now see the video.

I don’t care if the next one would have gotten 10 million views. I deleted that video and immediately made a follow up explaining the situation to the thousands of people that had followed me from that one video. Your child’s safety and right to future privacy should always be the forefront, and I’m ashamed to say I even slipped up one time. Don’t post that stuff. Send it to your family and move on.

[duxup]

>the fact that predators anywhere could now see the video

I've seen this worry expressed before, but I don't understand it.

Do you feel like your son is more likely to be a victim of a given predator that comes across the video because it went viral? Or some other consequence?

That doesn't seem likely at all considering sexual assault or similar IIRC is usually done by someone you know already.

[Hexigonz]

No, meaning that any predator can save a video of my child for viewing any time they like. I don’t mean they’ll be preyed on, I mean they’ll be viewed outside of the context I wanted my children viewed in. It’s not always “oh look at this cute kid! That’s adorable!” It can become much darker than that.

[duxup]

How likely is that to occur? Is that harmful to someone?

[Hexigonz]

There have been quite a few cases where content creators who have made their entire niche their children disabled downloading and follower counts dropped drastically. It may not harm my child directly, but I’d rather avoid making my kids someone else’s spankbank material.

I don’t really see a case that it would be good for them to mass distribute videos of their formative years, even if it isn’t directly harmful.

[duxup]

You didn't really tell me how likely that is, or what even the harm is. Lots of things happen, there are always cases.

It seems like something people fear and let that drive their choices without it being very likely or having consequences.

[Hexigonz]

Holy HN interaction. You have kids? Look beyond your logic for a second. You’re saying “oh man, it really isn’t a big deal to upload videos of your children that strangers can beat their meat to, because they aren’t being actively raped.”

Reflect my guy.

[Tade0]

> or what even the harm is.

The child didn't consent to this sort of usage, that's for one.

Would you be comfortable with your identity being used in ways you don't approve of?

[veltas]

No matter how unlikely if it's getting millions of views it's probably happening at least once. And what's the benefit of leaving the video up? Dopamine? Fame? It's not worth it, I agree with the regretful parent.

[xyzelement]

Is it that hard to relate to a parent who doesn't want pedophiles jacking off to a video of their son?